Walking Dead~ Living Cautiously
Trying to Survive the Unsurvivable
Sometimes due to external circumstances or beliefs, especially trauma, we can begin to hold back on living.
Often we do not even realize how cautiously we are living. How many times we want to take a certain path but we do not because of some inner trigger that warns us to hold back. Sometimes that is our true guidance, but other times its our programmed reaction to life. ‘Once burnt twice shy’, is a very apt quote for living cautiously.
Some people believe that there are natural risk takers in this world, but I wonder if that is a truth or an accepted lie? Personally I think it’s a risk to come to planet earth period, which leads me to believe we are natural risk takers, all of us.
So what makes some people grab life by the teeth and chew hard and long. What makes some people devour life’s juices and paint pictures for the rest of us to sit back and watch? What makes other people sit in their cubicles and colour within the lines with the two crayons they were given, never mixing the colours or shading, or imagining anything beyond what’s on that page?
I think life teaches us as we go. Not that the risk takers do not fail, or fall, or make mistakes; certainly they do. Our environment informs us and part of that environment is our family, teachers, society and friends of course. What the world tells us about those experiences called mistakes or failings, has an influence on how we feel about ourselves. We may not be able to change those experiences, but we can change the meaning we accepted as children. We can change, if we want to change. So often people accept themselves and their circumstances as fixed, but as long as we are breathing we can change.
Living cautiously with a subconscious idea that we are preventing our death, is not really living in my mind. Death is a given. We get on this ride called planet earth and we all eventually drop our bodies and get off the ride. So we cannot avoid it.
Prolonging our time on the ride can be done, but if we do not taste the juice of life, then what is the point of the ride? We can prolong the life of a vehicle by only driving it on sunny days, on roads with little traffic, and keep it safely in a garage but what is the point of that vehicle? Our bodies are our vehicles and keeping them maintained is important, but using them to experience life is really what they are for; in my opinion.
We are not going to avoid death, so there is no point in trying to survive this planet, its just an illusion; but we can avoid life. I hope you don’t! The next time you want to do something you think is risky, ask yourself if the voice in your head yelling, ‘don’t do it we’re all gonna die’ is a truth, a conditioned program, a family story, or if it’s a genuine warning that there is danger. Sometimes that ‘we’re all gonna die’ is a subconscious family story about you or anyone, getting up on a stage and embarrassing the whole family. That tells you its not a truth, but a belief that has been passed down to you as a controlling mechanism by the tribe and you can accept it or throw it away. If you are about to drive off a climb, its probably not the family history yelling at you not to do it, but your true guidance system!
But at least in looking at the fear, you’ll know it is your choice and not just a reactionary move to keep you in an illusion of safety. Life is meant to be lived not feared. Many people say they are afraid of death, but I think more are afraid of life. (I’ve had my own fears and relate very well to this process, most of the screaming in my head had very little to do with my actual physical safety and more about me stepping outside of the family role I inherited) .
Something to consider perhaps?
Here’s to life! May we all Thrive!
Catherine Whelan Costen
Clarity Whisperer & Lets Get Real Chattin with Catherine
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